Yesterday, Melanie and I responded to this post on “The Pagan Household”. Our response did not show up on the blog. If it was removed, we completely respect that decision. However, we think this issue is very important, and so we have decided to post our response here on our blog.
Pagans are famous for their internet “flame wars”. This is actually a product of monotheist thinking. We can disagree with each other, we can debate ideas, we can criticize each other without becoming enemies. It’s not an “all or nothing” dynamic. Also, our polytheistic heritage teaches us that there are always more than one, or even two, ways of thinking about things. With that in mind, please comment if you have any thoughts about this subject. We have to start having these difficult conversations if we’re ever going to learn from each other!
I’m am so sorry that your life situation is difficult. However, I do
not agree with your advice. In fact I think it is bad advice. Our
Goddess is not the same as the Christian god, and I think it is
important to teach our children that. Can you imagine a Mormon or a
Jew telling their children to keep their religion a secret? Is it
mentally healthy to lie to your children about God? And where does
that end? Heaven? Sin? Baptism? How do you answer important questions
like “Where do people go when they die?”
If Pagans want to be treated like a “real religion”, they should
start acting like they practice a real religion. My children have
never come home professing to be Christians. I cannot even fathom it!
A child who comes home professing to be Christian has been given no
roots in Paganism. Paganism needs to be a culture that a family lives,
from the day the child is born. Celebrate the holidays, go to
festivals, find people of like mind. Your child would never want to
be Christian if they enjoyed being Pagan!
What would Paganism look like if it were completely unfettered by
society-at-large? What if no one were afraid to call themselves
Pagan? What would that look like? Only when we can hold that vision
clearly in our minds, will we have the courage to fight for it.