I’m going to be blunt: pagan parents, start rearing your children as pagans. Stop hiding, stop treating our religions as dirty secrets so as not to upset the in-laws. It’s one thing to hide your paganism from your parents when it’s just you; it’s inexcusable to make your kid an accomplice.
Stop hiding behind the excuse that you want to “expose your child to many paths” or “to let them choose their own paths”. You can expose them to many paths, and still raise them as pagans. Don’t be fooled; no one grows up in a spiritual vacuum. If you do not provide a pagan worldview, another worldview will be provided for them by the culture-at-large, and you may not like it. They may move on when they’re older, but at least they have pagan roots. Give them a spiritual context to start from, so that they CAN evaluate other paths, instead of leaving them to drift along aimlessly.
We are just beginning, as pagan people, to rebuild what we have lost. Together, we can create the songs, the customs, the art, the poetry, the dances, the philosophy we need to make our many traditions into a thriving religious culture.
So, go on, just tell them.